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The 5 Love Languages

 


  Have you ever known what is type of your love language? Did you feel wonderful when your couple gave you a present? Or spending time to have lovely conversations together? The truth is that falling in love is often fun and easy, but building and maintaining relationships involves challenge and effort. Understanding love languages can improve relationships by aiding in communication and overall satisfaction. 

  The idea of love languages is by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., in his bestselling book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts in 1992. The book outlines the five ways we express and receive love, and it is thought to be the key to healthy, happy relationships. Gary Chapman gave the ideas for expressing them to the partner, here are the five languages according to Gary Chapman.

  The first one is Words of affirmation. People with words of affirmation as a love language value verbal acknowledgments of affection, including frequent "I love you's," compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement, and often frequent digital communication like texting and social media engagement. 

  The next one is Acts of Service. This is a magic word, action speak louder than words. For those with this love language, a helping hand makes them feel cared for, and doing something to lighten their load will go a long way. The value is when the partner goes out of their way to make their life easier. 

  Third is Receiving Gifts. Gifts are a pretty straightforward love language, feel loved when people give a visual symbol of love a.k.a gift. Gifting a partner their favourite clothes or framing the receipt from the first date are both meaningful ideas for those with this love language. 

  Next up, Quality Time. Someone with this love language wants undivided attention. They feel loved if their partner is present and focused on them when they are together. That means putting down the cell phone, turning off the television, closing the door, making eye contact, and actively listening while doing deep talk. They particularly love it when active listening, eye contact, and full presence as prioritized in the relationship.

  Last but not least, Physical Touch. A person with physical touch as their primary love language. Aside from sex, they feel loved when their partner holds their hand, touches their arm, or gives them a massage at the end of the day. Actions include making an active effort to cuddle, kiss, and hug regularly. 

  Love language can create empathy with a partner in order to maintain the relationship. When couples are committed to learning and using love languages, they increase their emotional intelligence and learn how to put someone else's needs above their own. Love language also applies to relationships between parents and children, among coworkers, and among friends. 

  Keep in mind that love languages are fluid. Most people have more than one love language, they can also change and shift over time. Our love language can change in response to our age, time in our life, or in response to trauma. Instead, it should function as a starting point that sets couples on a journey. 

  Thank you for your time, As always have a lovely day. 😀


References:

  1. Everything to Know About the 5 Love Languages (2023). Available at: https://www.verywellmind.com/can-the-five-love-languages-help-your-relationship-4783538.
  2. What Are the 5 Love Languages? Everything You Need to Know, A. (2023) What’s Your Love Language? Find Out Yours for a Better, Stronger Relationship and prevention. Available at: https://www.prevention.com/sex/relationships/a43413531/5-love-languages-explained/.
  3. What Are The 5 Love Languages? Everything You Need To Know (2020). Available at: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-5-love-languages-explained.
  4. The 5 Love Languages - And How to Use Them to Strengthen Your Relationship (2023). Available at: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-are-the-five-love-languages/.

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