Living in a family where the parents are intolerant of each other can be quite a disastrous experience. It is not an easy journey when someone has lacking the love of their family that should have. It can disturbing effect on not just the couple and neighbour, but the children too. This is what we know as a broken home.
The term "broken home" is used to describe a home where only one parent is raising the children. The difference between a broken home and a single-parent family are single-parent family is a healthy family with connectedness in the relationship, while a broken home is absolutely disconnected with breaks in the relationships. The characteristics of broken homes are reacting in anger toward the children, can't cope with parenting, and set no boundaries.
Divorce can happen anytime without anyone's expectation. Children get affected by divorce the most, more than the bickering adults and feuding families. The effects of a broken family on a child's development depend on numerous factors, including the age of the child at the time of parents' separation, and on the personality and family relationships. Infants and young children may experience few negative developmental effects, and older children and teenagers may experience some problems in their social, emotional, and educational functioning. So let's take a close look at the negative ways kids from broken homes get affected.
Lack of self-confidence. Shyness and lack of self-confidence go hand in hand when it comes to describing feelings their children may experience as a result of a divorce. It can be terribly distressing for the parent or someone that have to witness their children's personality changing as a result of the divorce. Their parents want their children to have full confidence, but after a divorce, their confidence could take a knock. This could occur because their children are blaming themselves. Life seemed to be in control and happy after divorce, but divorce sparks the end for the children.
Social. Divorce affects children's social relationships in several ways. Some children act out their distress about their broken family by acting aggressive and by engaging in bullying behaviour. Teenagers from broken families might develop a cynical attitude toward relationships and harbour feelings of mistrust, both toward their parents and potential romantic partners. On the other hand, children can make out difficult for them to seek positive social interaction.
Depression. Depression is a serious mental health disorder. When the parent is divorced it will traumatic for everyone involved including the children. It could very well become unbearable for children. It could affect the way their kids socialise, interacts with others, and make friends. This can result in other things which could be disastrous.
Though they may look different from person to person and may differ in severity, we've all been impacted by experiences from our childhoods. In fact, this can move forward and heal from growing up in a broken family. First of all, you are not alone, your family is not perfect but honestly, no one has a perfect family. Just like you, they just hold them inside and don't share them with the world. Second, banish blame, whatever you do, don't blame yourself for what happened to you in your childhood. Finally, seek support, don't hesitate to provide the therapist. A good therapist can help you start the process of healing.
A broken home is a serious moment, especially among children. Love is the only emotion that can fix the broken despite everything that is happening around. So trying to give effective communication and put in the work. Thank you for your time and as always have a nice day 😀.
References:
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- A child’s worst nightmare; to be brought up in a broken home - Times of India (2022). Available at: https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/parenting/a-childs-worst-nightmare-to-be-brought-up-in-a-broken-home/articleshow/55292726.cms.
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- Julia Hogan-Werner, L. (2018) How to Heal When You Come from a Broken Family, Grotto Network. Available at: https://grottonetwork.com/navigate-life/health-and-wellness/healing-from-broken-families/.
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