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What is Insecure?

 


  We are living in the social media generation where narcissism is very common in this day. Some people believe that technology and social media are giving us an inflated sense of self. But most of us don't walk around feeling like we are all that great. There are some people with underlying emotion that overwhelmingly shapes their self-image and behaviour. That is called insecurity. 

  Insecurity is a common feeling that nearly most people will experience at some point. Normally, it presents as a lack of confidence, anxiety, and uncertainty. Insecurities can come from being bullied at school or constantly scrolling through social and comparing to others. Insecurity often causes negative thoughts about one's ability to fit in with peers, reach goals, or find acceptance and support. Insecurity also tends to surface in adults whose parents pushed them excessively in childhood. They often due to their parents' desire to succeed rather than their own.

  There are three different insecurity, personal insecurity, professional insecurity, and relationship insecurity. Personal insecurities are about how you look or sound. These insecurities can seem superficial to someone observing from the outside. They are worried about the hair or clothing that they wear. Professional insecurities happen at workplaces and make people anxious and self-conscious to give presentations or speak up. This is also known as job insecurity. Last but not least is relationship insecurity, which is common in any relationship. These insecurities can lead to jealousy, arguments, and domination behaviour. 

   However, the good news is there are ways to build up your self-esteem. Here is some step to deal with insecurity that can change mindset and strategies. 

  Focus on the positives. This is a good start to building up your self-esteem. The way you talk to yourself and the way you see the world will have a major impact on your insecurities. People who speak to themselves more positively, challenge their negative self-talk, stay focused on the future, and find good things in the world around them tend to be more secure and comfortable. 

  Spend time with people who love you. There is nothing like surrounding yourself with loving, supportive people to build up your confidence and make you feel accepted. Try to make a plan to set up more coffee dates, diner dates, and get-togethers with your nearest and dearest. It will help you appreciate your own unique qualities and perspectives. 

  Accept your limitations. Change is perfect, and moving in new directions can help people accomplish great things. The problems arise when people become fixated on changing the unchangeable. Find ways to embrace what makes you uncomfortable. 

  Right, the bottom line. So, everyone deals with insecurity on some level but if left unchecked it can have a big impact on daily life. Building self-esteem isn't always easy, it can take some time, but the end result is worth it in your entire life. So don't give up until you reach the goal. Thank you for your time and have a nice day 😀.


References:

  1. Patterson, E. (2021) Insecurity: Definition, Causes, & 7 Ways to Cope. Available at: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/insecurity/
  2. Help, G. et al. (2022) Insecurity - GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog, GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog. Available at: https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/insecurity.
  3. How to Stop Being Insecure and Build Self-Esteem (2022). Available at: https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-stop-being-insecure.
  4. Improve Your Confidence: 10 Ways to Overcome Insecurities (2022). Available at: https://www.betterup.com/blog/how-to-overcome-insecurities.
  5. How to Overcome Insecurity: Why Am I So Insecure? (2015). Available at: https://www.psychalive.org/how-to-overcome-insecurity/.


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