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How to Forgive Someone?

 


  Have you ever been hurt by the actions or words of your friends or perhaps parent? Your parent constantly criticised you growing up, your colleagues backstabbed you, or maybe you've had traumatic being physically or emotionally abused by someone close to you. This pain can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness, and even revenge. It is always happening in our lives, but if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays the most. 

  Forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being inside your body. So what does forgiveness mean?

  Forgiveness means to be different people. It involves a decision to let go of resentment and revenge.  Forgiveness can also be difficult when the person who wronged us doesn't seem to deserve our forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting or excusing the harm done to you. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. Forgiveness is strong medicine. When life hits us hard, there is nothing as effective as forgiveness for healing deep pains.

  But how do adapt and become forgiving them to our own life? Here is some advice to easily forgive somebody.

  Empathy or sympathy. This is might be difficult but studies noted that the human brain when we think about forgiving and have discovered that. Then, when people successfully imagine forgiving someone, they show increased activity in the neural circuits responsible for empathy. This shows us that empathy is connected to forgiveness and an important step in the process. 

  However, if there's absolutely no way you can empathise with an offender, try to sympathise instead by remembering when both of you forgive for something. Don't worry your brain has some much space and choosing positive emotions leaves less room for a negative one.

  Benefits for your body. Letting go of revenge and bitterness can improve health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to less anxiety, stress, and hostility, fewer symptoms of depression, and create healthier relationships. Moreover, Forgiveness can improve our heart health, self-esteem, and most importantly mental health. 

  Identify what you really want. When you're struggling with your emotions toward the person, reminding yourself of your end goal can ease those feelings. Do you want to be friends again? Or do you want to let go of the bad feelings? This won't necessarily impact how you move forward but keeping the goal in mind helps you not to lose sight.  

  Forgiveness may not always be easy, but it can be easier with a few exercises and the right mindset. Also, remind yourself that you are moving forward, and forgiving this person allows them to stay in the past as you move on. So have you forgiven somebody today?

  Hopefully, you've learnt something from this article and as always have a nice day 😀.


References:

  1. 3 Reasons Why Forgiveness Is Good for You (2021). Available at: https://www.verywellmind.com/the-benefits-of-forgiveness-3144954.
  2. What is Forgiveness and What are the Benefits? (2019). Available at: https://positivepsychology.com/forgiveness-benefits/.
  3. Why is it so easy to hold a grudge? (2021). Available at: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692.
  4. How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You—Even When It Feels Impossible (2019). Available at: https://www.prevention.com/life/a29995725/how-to-forgive-someone/.
  5. Eight Keys to Forgiveness (2021). Available at: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_keys_to_forgiveness.


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